good morning :) afternoon, evening, wherever you are! i hope your day is getting along well! i’ve done one of these before, a few months ago, and unfortunately things didn’t work out. thankfully, i now have more of a clear picture of what it is i’m searching for; my forever person. last time i made a post like this, i was still trying to figure out who i was as a person, and what values i held. now, i know myself. i know my worth, i understand what i am looking for, and i recognize the work that must be put into fulfilling the empty hole in my life. the only thing i don’t know yet is, well, you :)but hold the phone! let’s not get too ahead of ourselves here! hi! my name is ashley, i’m a 21 year old student studying psychology with an interest in industrial organization psychology. to explain this in simple terms, i’m interested in the little gray area that lies where psychological principles meet the wild world of business. i would love to ramble on about this, as it’s something i’m very passionate about, but i’ll save that for the nights we share together! i’m in my last semester of university, and i’m beginning the process of looking for what exactly it is i want to do with my life! this includes where i want to settle down and look for a permanent job.

outside of my adult life, i am very passionate about video games. i adore cozy style games like Animal Crossing and Stardew, and i have a very deep love for Pokémon. last semester, i fell in love with an introduction to piano course that i took on a whim, and i would love to explore that further! along the same lines, i love classical music and i would really really love to delve into the world of life orchestras (and perhaps even go on a nice date night to see a show!). i enjoy wondering art museums, and i deeply value the world around me. walking through a beautiful park, taking a scenic hike, or stopping along the beach to pick the pretty flowers that grow, against all odds, in the sand that grits between my toes. i have a dog who i love more than anything in the world. he is my world. i would do anything for him, and i mean anything. if you’re against dogs sleeping in the bed, then we’ll have to have a serious conversation :) i love to read romance novels and write my own little stories. i am really passionate about my education, and sometimes find myself lost in the subject material. learned a new word today? i would love to hear it! want to learn a new language? hell yeah! you want to explore the world around us and visit new countries together? i’ll pack my bags!

i’m sure you can tell this, but as i’ve alluded to, i am very in tune with myself. every single day i work on myself (internally and externally); skincare routines, weekly self care days/ clean up days, building my emotional intelligence. i am not here to waste my time, nor am i here to waste anyone elses. if i am not receiving the type of love and attention i feel that i deserve, you should expect to have a big conversation about it. i pride myself on my communication and ability to talk through problems within a relationship. if getting on the phone and having a difficult conversation is something you’re not willing to do, it may be best to move along.

so! i’ve made it clear what i am not looking for, and i’m sure you’re wondering what it is i am searching for! although i am extremely independent, i thrive while experiencing life alongside someone. i’m searching for the type of love that in the movies: the weekly date nights, the breakfast in bed together, the sheer love and commitment. i am easy to please :) my love languages are quality time and physical touch. i want to know that you love me without you having to say it. i want a connection that makes my friends jealous and my mother swoon. one that both you and i are proud of cultivating together. i desperately want someone who will nurture my passions, support me while i explore new ones, and introduce me to all of theirs. i need someone who is both willing and excited to play games together, watch movies together, read to one another. most of all, i want something real. i don’t want something online only. i am not looking for something that will remain behind a screen until the day we forget about one another. i need something tangible, which leads me into my next point (wow this is really long, i’m sorry!).

i attend university in Florida, but i was born and raised in New York. as of right now, i’m planning on graduating this spring (yippie!!) and moving back home to get my feet on the ground. i am looking for someone ideally in New York who i can arrange a meeting with once i return in April. that being said, i am completely open to someone farther away on the west coast, someone closer on the east coast, or even someone abroad if you are willing and able to meet in person within a few months time. planes exist!! i would love nothing more than to fly to a foreign country and explore it with you for the weekend! i would love to travel to your hometown and have you hold my hand and give me a first class tour of what makes it home to you! i would love to host you at my place for a week or two! if we want to make it work, nothing will stand in the way. it is imperative that you understand that. if you’re looking to meet someone online and remain online, i am not the girl for you! and that’s okay! if you’re in Florida (more specifically north Florida or surrounding areas) i would love to meet for dinner or drinks, but please understand that i will be moving back north at some point and we will have to have that discussion when the time comes.

phew. now that the big adult stuff is out of the way, lets shift into the little parts of me :) as much as i love being a college student, going out for drinks on the weekends and staying up all night to work on homework gets exhausting. i discovered my little space a few years ago and once i really embraced it, i haven’t looked back! i am your typical little girl! i love my stuffies, my pacifier, my coloring books. i love to watch cartoons and to read children’s stories. i love to delve into my little space activities in the evenings as i settle down from a busy day, and i enjoy having someone guiding me along my experience. i do partake in my fair share of fun stuff, i engage with marijuana pretty often and i love grabbing the occasional drink with friends. something about being inebriated and with the one i love the most makes me feel inexplicably little! please feel free to ask me anything and everything about my little space! i love answering questions about it :)

i am not looking for a hookup— and no offense, but if i was it certainly wouldn’t be a digital hookup. as such, i feel no need for things to be sexual early on. i am complacent with my toys for the time being, and i need you to understand that i will simply not engage in sexual behavior until a relationship is cultivated. if i don’t know your last name, we will not be sleeping together :) i wouldn’t go up to a stranger at the bar and ask them for pictures, and i certainly will not send you pictures if you ask me to the first night we chat. for the sake of sexual compatibility, i will say that i enjoy the typical things involved in BDSM and DDLG. i love exploring different dynamics like pet play, and i also enjoy rougher avenues of kink such as CNC and breeding. i want to make it clear that i am a submissive through and through. i don’t have a dominant bone in my body, so if you’re looking for a switch i wish you the best of luck! i have never tried anything related to ABDL, and i am not exactly looking for that. if it’s something you enjoy, we can chat about it, but if that’s a deal breaker for you i completely understand.

i have photos of myself on my profile, and i would genuinely love to have a video call or a phone call to establish validity. i am 5’3, average athletic build with a smaller waist and thicker thighs. i have blonde hair, blue eyes, and some freckles here or there. i typically present very feminine and would love to explore dressing more girly (i’ve recently discovered hair ribbons and i’m obsessed). i do kindly ask that we remain on reddit at first, i promise you, i will not respond to you if you dm me on instagram to chat without prior permission (yes, it has happened. several times.). we’re all adults here, and i expect to be treated as such. i will admit, i really love longer, well thought-out responses. i put a lot of effort into this post, and i would love to see it reciprocated! if you message me one or two words, i most likely will not respond.

i am excited to take a deep breath and meet each and every one of you amazing people :) i am excited to finally take my big girl pants off and be happily little with someone new and exciting! as always, ask any questions you may have, and be prepared for the plethora of questions i have for you! to everyone who has made it this far, i wish you the best of luck. we’re all here for one reason or another, and i really hope you're nurturing yourself as you search for someone to look after. take care of yourself, stay hydrated, and i wish you nothing but the best going forward! take care!