hi y’all, happy sunday & mother’s day to all those celebrating!

i have a question. i’ve been seeing a white guy for a while now. it’s been great. i love him & see/saw us being in a longterm committed relationship with one another.

he’s been away for about three weeks travelling & we finally saw each other for the first time this weekend.

on friday i was at his house & i told him about this Fendi bag i thrifted while he was away. idk if it’s real or not & i told him that, but it’s definitely real leather so idrc either way. his response was “good find!”.

yesterday (saturday) we went out to an Italian resturant. when the waitress came over to settle the bill, she remarked that she liked my bag, which i’d sat on the table before we started eating. it was the Fendi.

y’all, why did this man respond to this white lady “it’s fake”? he’s never done anything like this before. but also most of our interacting has been one-on-one. i’m scared that this is a glimpse of how he’ll treat me when other people are around.

in a former relationship the man also put me down in front of another woman & it was a precursor to the most intimate abuse i’ve ever suffered in my life.

is this a red flag/dealbreaker or a bad joke?

he did apologize after i immediately expressed my displeasure at his comment.

thanks for your responses in advance.