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Was seeing someone I had pretty strong feelings about from October until December. The relationship progressed really quickly and there were a lot of conversations about longterm plans and how we both felt like we were meant to be together (in hindsight he was definitely a lovebomber). I broke things off romantically in December because I wasn't getting the attention I needed, and sexually in January because I got the feeling he was seeing someone else. In late January, a girl reached out to me who let me know that he had been dating three other girls for the entirety of our relationship.

I consider myself healed from the experience, and I can now appreciate the good parts of our relationship (we had a lot of firsts together) but at 32, this was my first experience with being cheated on and I've definitely changed since. I do consider most of these changes to be welcome and necessary.

I used to be the biggest lovergirl. I would fall for people so quickly, and immediately be picturing a future together. Now, I move extremely slowly and think really carefully about how compatible I am with my partners before I choose what type of relationship I want with them. I pay close attention to their behaviour, and to how I feel in their presence. I used to be very patient and very communicative with my partners. If I saw behaviour I didn't like, there was repeated communication and attempts to resolve things. Now, I cut people off very quickly. I've become very protective of my inner peace, and any bad behaviour or suddenly spotty communication (usually a sign someone else has gotten involved) and I break things off.

I consider all of this to be a necessary part of growing up, because I think I was VERY naive before.

So, ladies who have been cheated on, did it change you? And how?