Bisexual/pansexual, female, 30, single

When I first came out at 26 I exclusively only dated women for about three and a half years. During this time, I only identified as bisexual or queer. Lately pansexual feels like a better label for me, but I'm not fussy with labels.

I started to recently date men again at the start of this year as my attraction style has kind of levelled out evenly, and I'm comfortable with it overall.

But I feel like now that I've stopped making as much of a concentrated effort with women, it's literally a ghost town. It's so disappointing. I have continued to make the first move when I see a cute girl etc. But I guess contrasted with men women are so much more docile in their approach towards me, I think we are socialised to be less assertive and it affects how we date amongst other factors. But I'm really sick of it, I wish girls would approach me first and message me first and arrange dates with times and locations. It's so tiring and makes me feel really undesirable in same sex scenarios. For every 30 men that approach me I get 2 women approaching me if I'm lucky. Does anyone else relate, or am I speaking to the void.