Ever since my adolescence, I never quite felt comfortable with being identified as a straight man. I always felt a kinship with the queer community, and felt alone because I wasn't a part of it.

So in my mid 20s I decided I had seen enough twinks and femboys I could think of as attractive that I could call myself bi. That could be my in. My escape from being something I never felt like I was but needed to be categorized as. And that's when I found you lovely people.

One thing you all taught me that I'll never forget is that the most important factor of your identity is your own agency. Whenever I felt like a fraud for calling myself bi, you all assured me that only I could know whether or not I was.

By the way, if you only find twinks and femboys attractive, that does not mean you are not bi. I know I used that example in my own story, but again only YOU can decide your identity.

Now, after some soul searching, I've discovered that I'm trans. And since then, I've discovered that I feel more comfortable with the label of lesbian than bisexual. I always was sorta stretching my attraction to men. I would still say I'm like probably 95% attracted to women and 5% attracted to men, but the attraction to men is more of a passing thing than a genuine yearning for male contact. No offense to you kings out there.

So, thank you for giving me more confidence in my own decision making. I don't doubt myself being trans nearly as much as I did for being bi, and I believe it's because what you beautiful people taught me about my own agency being important in my identity.