Hello good people,

I (35m)'m slowly but surely coming out - and happy about it. But: I'm unable to overcome my shyness - how did you manage?

Due to trauma, I burried my bisexuality in the past, but thanks to my partner's (29f) loving support and meeting the right people (had my first gay-sex recently - and it was wonderful⁾ have been able to reconnect with my sexuality. It's an exciting journey.

I don't know how to connect with guys though. Whilst I do receive flirts in public and am getting super-liked on apps, I feel very shy and do not know how to respond. I guess this is due to my twenty-years of experience, as the alpha-protector-type, whilst I feel like a bottom/sub towards men.

Also, my experience so far has been, that men would either dismiss me, when I tell them about my female partner or they disrespect her (which is worse), by ignoring her existence.

What's your experience and how do you manage to 'switch'? Thank you for sharing