So I finally measured my pp for the first time at the big age of 28 and now I feel like so many issues or feelings I've had around sex now make a lot more sense. For some background, I'm a short (5'8 on a good day) asian man with a small frame. I also had pretty bad self-esteem growing up and always just assumed my penis was on the smaller end of average. I'd also only ever been with my SO (took each other's virginity), so neither of us knew what we were working with.

Fast forward to yesterday, and I finally figured I should measure myself: 6 inches long and 5.5 thick (not huge but thick enough to start causing issues). Did some googling and now a lot of my problems in the bedroom have an identifiable reason which is both liberating and frustrating. I had always bought into the idea that condom sizes were a myth (yeah they *can* stretch to fit a baseball bat, but that doesn't mean its ideal), so I usually bought normal or even snug fit condoms. Lo and behold your pp is not supposed to feel strangulated after putting one on and they should roll down relatively easily. Had I known that I would have not been an idiot and actually used them instead of having pregnancy scares and buying Plan B's a few times a year. She has an IUD now, so I guess it doesn't matter anymore.

I also did the toilet roll test (didn't fit) and had another epiphany about why my SO hates giving head. She always used to say she had a strong gag reflex, but even getting to her throat usually sucked because her molars feel like a cheesegrater. I never said anything and just assumed she's bad at head and that blowjobs in general were overhyped. After sticking the tp tube in my own mouth I immediately felt like shit because I realized its not her fault and its a wonder that she volunteers to do it at all. Had I known all this earlier I wouldn't have asked for it so often hoping that the more she did it, the better it would get. It also takes a lot of the pressure off since I no longer have unrealistic expectations for how a bj is *supposed* to feel.

On the flip side, it's helped my self-confidence which is great, but I could have saved myself from so much anxiety and discomfort had I known sooner. Just wanted to post to vent some frustration and see if my experiences are shared.