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How do I tell a friend I have been considering leaving their discord server?
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I do not want to offend them or anything.. but I do not feel comfortable nor welcome in their server anymore. This is not true if its just them, but it is never just them anymore. Its always 3-8 people. And most of these people have made it clear they do not like me or at the least do not respect me. I do not like 98% of people that are now in the server and they clearly do not like me and make it VERY obvious. Almost every single person that is in the server now came around after I joined, and I tried to be friends and give everyone a chance but they did not treat me the same way.

Like one person named lil has literally ignored me and refused to acknowledge anything I say or do in a call. Someone else will repeat what I say and then they respond. They have not muted me bc they will talk about things I say but not talk to me nor acknowledge me. This has happened since the first moment I ever tried to speak to them.

On person named kma kept "trash talking" me about things I am self conscious about, I asked them to stop bc it made me uncomfortable. They repeated it all in different words. Then they called someone the R slur, I called them out saying its not okay and is no different than saying the F slur. They said "yeah. Exaclty." And then they said "FINE. ITS NOT THEIR FAULT THEY ARE F**ING AUTISTIC" to which I called them out again and said autism is not an insult and not to use it as a slur and that it is wrong. My "friend" said "honey not everyone has to agree with you." Like.. obviously no one HAS to agree with me. But this is a fact not an opinion. So I called kma a d*k and left the call.

Other people have clearly stopped associating with me kindly. And when they do join a call I am in they ruin it and I end up leaving.

There are a few people I think are okay but the rest clearly do not like me for little to no reason at all.

I have been avoiding the people in the group lately. I also lose most of my interest in the call or game when other people in the server join.

Idk how to be completely honest about it without probably offending my friend. I have considered just leaving and trying to explain whenever they message me after they notice. But idk..

I'm deffo not rude, but I can be quite blunt about things. Someone asks me how I feel and I will almost always be 100% honest about it. I have learned that NTs do not like 100% honesty even though they talk about how great it is.

Idk how to handle this and its stressing me out..

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