I've been trying to process how things ended so I can move on. I'll be asking a new women out soon and it wouldn't be fair if I had someone else on my mind so I've been processing things.

First date she told me she had commitment issues.

On the second date, she said we need to establish boundaries. I didn't know she FA at the time, so I said let's take it day by day and find those organically. She responded “why are you so confident” looking back that was an odd thing to say because I has only sent her texts at that point to set up dates.

Third month she told me I reminded her of an ex from the past. I almost ended things there. I felt insecure because of that and didn't text her for two days which triggered her fear of abandonment. It's that simple. During our final argument, I asked what she thought her attachment style was. She said “anxious-avoidant”

Before she went cold on me she was so anxious around me. I just didn't realize it. We were at a nightclub dancing, and I was about to get the drinks she refused to let me go alone. She said quote “you're too cute to be left alone,” I thought she was flirting, but that may have been her being anxious.

I was hurt so it felt good to view her as a monster, but I had to play nice since we share an athletics club.

Hell she even tried to share her childhood trauma with me.

I'm just in a weird place right now. I'm empathic for her, but I know someone like her could never make me happy.

She's no monster but trying to love someone like her is dangerous for me.