Sorry for the length, I appreciate anyone who takes the time to read & reply.

TLDR; I am a nonpassing transwoman seeking bottom surgery wondering if I should worry about my dating pool becoming even more of a craphole than before or making things harder on myself

I am a transwoman who does not "pass" at all despite being on hormones almost 3 years so far & while I do some minimal voice training from time to time & use She/Her pronouns, I dont try very hard at the moment with things like makeup, nails, long hair, or fem clothing. This is because of genetics & puberty's effects of my voice, bone structure, & overall body shape as well as financial barriers that keep me from actually buying any of the aforementioned products. This makes it almost impossible to "girlmode" on most days and many people do not consider my identity valid, with many not able to think of me as more than a strange gay man. Despite all this I live out & proud as a transwoman. All this along with social anxiety & trust issues also make dating very difficult. On top of that I feel like the only cismen expressing interest in me at the moment are toxic DL or chasers or people who want to use me for their fantasies & experiments to see if they're gay. The only ciswomen who have expressed interest since coming out are toxic, or have been wanting to experiment for different reasons, or are wanting a casual playmate for them & their bisexual husbands. Almost nobody seems to be interested in me as a normal human being any more, it's all about my identity genitals mannerisms being like a fantasy for them.

I am seeking MtF gender reassignment surgery & I'm worried I may be making dating & making genuine friends more difficult on myself. I'm wondering if I should be even more worried about used as a fetish after I heal & I'm also wondering if I might end up shrinking my dating pool to an even smaller & more toxic one than it is now? ALSO I've been wondering if I'm going to have to start disclosing that I'm a post-op transwoman to everyone I wanna date right up front? What do you all think? All opinions are welcome. Are my worries seeming a bit unreasonable from the information I've given?

Keep in mind I am not questioning my identity or choice to get surgery any longer these days, that is not up for debate