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I am super happy na ang daming gusto i-break yung cycle na not having a child unless they are mentally, emotionally, and financially ready, at least.
I was like that in my 20s. I am 30(F) and parang nagbabago yung thoughts ko about it. Why? My biological clock is ticking.
You see, I want to have a kid soon. Pero dahil I only have 100k on my savings (I have two insurances if you can count it), ayoko (muna).
Ayokong hindi mabigyan ng comfortable life ang future kids ko.
Yes, gusto ko sila pag aralin na hindi mamo-mroblema pay may projects sila, pambaon, allowance.
Di naman kelangan sa private school but I want to give them a richer experience in life.
Ma-travel akong tao. So I want them to see how big the world is. Kaso ako nga lang budget traveler pa eh.
So I guess my question is, yun mga nag iisip na ayaw pa mag anak, mga ilang taon na kayo? Hehe.
Ilan yung percentage dito ng babaeng ayaw pa mag anak on their 30s pero gusto din ng kids soon?
Iniisip ko kasi baka madali lang sabihin for other women na ayaw pa mag anak kasi bata pa sila. Sure, 30 is still young but you know what I mean.
Not to mention yung pwedeng maging complications sa bata pag after 30 na nag anak.
Minsan napapaisip ako sana lalake na lang ako.
EDIT (based on the comment): I have a boyfriend now. 6 months palang kami. He was my high school classmate and he is responsible. Engineer sya dito sa isang local company so you have an idea how much he earns. I actually earn twice as much as his. He lost his savings when he got sick few months back.
28 F here and leaning towards being childfree. I don’t know if magbabago pa isip ko once I meet someone responsible enough to raise a child with pero for now parang ayoko talaga 😅 Same thoughts din as you OP. If I have a kid, I want them to grow up living a comfortable life - yung lahat ng needs and wants (na reasonable) mabibigay ko. Right now I’m still supporting my siblings and parang sila yung anak ko so medyo malabo pa na kayanin ko magka anak in the next 5 years hahahaha. By then I’ll be 33 na and risky na ang pregnancy lol
Oo! Kakasabi ko lang sa kanya na baka gusto niya iconsider career in tech. Nung una kasi sabi nya gusto niya maging teacher, sabi ko noble profession yon and rewarding siguro but it won’t pay the bills. Practical lang tayo. 🥲🥲🥲 Hindi ba okay ang Psych? Ang mahal ng bayad sa therapists ah 😭😭😭
Thank you girl!!! Ikaw din! Hope things go well for you ❤️
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Totoo huhu. Lalo na sa culture din dito parang babae yung mas expected to take the role of child rearing while men are just expected to provide financially. Hirap humanap ng lalaki na kaya maging involved in both. Hahaha.
Kaka graduate lang naman nung isa and boards na lang. yung isa senior high school palang, I don’t want them to be a working student and lose their youth eh. So yung request ko na lang sa bunso namin is mag-aral siya ng mabuti and humanap ng career na kaya syang buhayin in the future.
After they graduate I’m free na hahaha