Idk if I’m going to word this correctly, but I’ve been dying to ask this. I have a huge kink of being cheated on but not knowing the details whatsoever. I don’t necessarily want to be in an open marriage, because I actually get turned on by being actually cheated on and lied to. But the problem is, once AP’s hear this from my husband, they usually aren’t interested anymore. I don’t really understand why, because I don’t see that big of a difference. I like for him to tell me he’s being faithful, but I see and find small subtle signs that he’s not. I know this is weird, but I have experienced it with him and love it. We have played with a lot of different variations of it. He truly wants a full time side chick, not just for sex but an actual relationship. Do AP’s always expect the married man to end up eventually leaving their spouse or do they like to remain APs? I’m really just trying to hear more from an AP’s perspective to learn how we should navigate this better. A lot of women immediately think we are looking for a unicorn or threesomes, when really I would prefer to not even be involved. Then they think it’s just about sex, when for him, it’s not whatsoever. Advice??