I’ve talked about one of my two APs on here in brief. Quick backgrounder: We met in a chat room, really hit it off and eventually progressed to meeting several times. We lived about an hour from one another or it probably would have been more often. This went on about a year before she just sort of disappeared.

For years, I though it was something I did or didn’t do. After 20 years of not communicating, I ran across her account on Facebook, took a chance and IMed her. We’ve been conversing on there off and on for about a year, within which time I not only found out I did nothing wrong (it was her personal decision to end it) but also that we genuinely loved each other. We have both remarried since our affair and I figured we’d still be friends. Of course, if given the opportunity to rekindle our relationship, I’d take it in a heartbeat!

Today, completely out of the blue, she IMs me pictures of something of mine that she has kept all these years! I was floored—she says I meant too much for her to part with it. I told her I loved her and she said it back to me. Wow.

So, on a whim, I acknowledged that we actually live further from each other than before (but still within driving distance) but suggested we meet sometime for coffee, as I’d love to see her. I was expecting some type of polite decline but instead received a “Maybe” with a smiley face. I think my heart skipped a beat.

While I would have completely discounted the thought that we’d ever see each other in person again, today has changed my train of thought. What do the masses think? Should I pursue a little more aggressively? Should I wait for her to contact me again? Should I simply maintain the status quo?

I really don’t know and just wanted to share my story because it shows how strong a relationship like this can be. Of course, I’m completely open to thoughts and words of advice. Have a great evening and remainder of your weekend!