This article (link below) is interesting in general — I only recently heard this thing where polyamorous people are usually considered “ugly.” What I found more interesting is another concept mentioned at the end where the BMAL (Big Man at Large) author talks about being “the exception to the rule.”

In my experience, the guys who approach me (esp. through various online means) ALL want to be the exception to my rules (no smokers, specific age bracket, within 18 miles of me.) First, they write me saying they’re the things I explicitly said I didn’t want. Most of the time when that happens I ignore/delete/block.

Being a curious person, I wonder why they would fucking waste my time and patience that way so I sometimes ask. Answers irritate but do not disappoint!

Q: Why would you respond from (town 80 miles away)? A: It’s not that far.

Q: What are your plans for when you retire? (To 36 year old who ignored my age range.) A: Retire from what?

Q: You read that I’m looking for a man late 40s or older? A: That’s ok, I love older women.

Q: Smoking is my #1 dealbreaker. A: I never smoke inside.

https://medium.com/illumination/why-are-polyamorous-people-ugly-93a663f91660

Male clueless entitlement exhausts me.