We are brand ‘spanking’ new to the LS. We have extensive podcast and Reddit knowledge but zero lived experience. We are both in our mid 40s , 5’6, in decent shape (love a good Apple fritter tho) and pretty bloody horny!!

We live in BC - mins from the border and in our google searches we found Club Sapphire in WA. It has a swinging 101 night which we thought would be a good start for us! If you have any thoughts or suggestions for us about said club please message us or respond to this thread. Here are some questions we have:

1. What do you wear to a swingers club? Does everyone just wear nipple tassels and panties - and just a clean white over your junk for men? Seriously, how sexy or is everyone naked???

2. Is there a place to shower and freshen up before the festivities begin?

3. It’s our first time so we will be physical just with each other but how and where is acceptable? Like are we tripping over people giving oral and having sex or is there set places for whatever?

4. If we are ok with people watching us but we aren’t ready to be physical with anyone else (yet) do we wear special hats? Is it ok to watch another couple have sex or is that not done?

5. How about cum? Can we orgasm how we and when we feel? Obviously not going to be cumming on the light switches but what is normal?

6. If we are feeling more comfortable and looking to next time soft swap with a couple what is the best way to go about making that fantasy a reality? Is it better to find another couple who is in a similar situation (two bumbling couples bumbling together) or is a more experience couple a better way to start (although I do worry about how patient they might be)?

Thank you for your time and input… reach out anytime - we looking to make new connections and learn from you!