We’ve played with the idea of a 3 some with another guy for a while and both want to go ahead with it. I’ll be present but mostly watching. My partner (F) is excited but understandably nervous. She’s starting to worry about the little details such as logistics of a meet, what would be expected of her and how she should act etc which is all making her nervous and still happy to go ahead but dampening her enjoyment of the process somewhat.

I’ve explained to her that really it’s her needs and comfort that will need to be catered to by our 3rd but she is still worried it’ll be awkward and asking what to expect. I suggested we just go with the flow, if we hit it off meeting somewhere casually then take it somewhere private and let the bull do their job but if not leave it. She actually hasnt found this particularly reassuring and wonders if anything if we just skip the pleasantries and get right into it meeting in the hotel room etc

Can anyone share any insights or experiences that might help?