1. Control Your Breathing Your heart is like a jackhammer and you can’t breathe in enough air. It’s going to be hard to enjoy yourself like this, so our first tip is to control your breathing. Start with a slow breath in, then gradually release it. Repeat this until your body starts calming down.

2. Temper Expectations Having sex with anyone for the first time means adjusting to their likes and dislikes while they learn yours. Don’t walk in expecting this to be like something out of a porno. It’s not going to happen.

3. Communicate, Communicate, Communicate To make the night as exemplary as possible, you must communicate. If you don’t like something they’re doing, say so! If you have a favorite technique, then share it. Even in swinging, no one is a mind reader. Communicate your interests and desires to have them fulfilled.

4. Have an Exit Plan or Safe Word Listen, your first swinging experience will probably be fabulous. Just in case it’s not, discuss an exit plan and/or safe word with your spouse. Keep this between the two of you and use it if need be.

It’s perfectly natural to be nervous the first time you and your spouse swing. With these handy tips, the two of you can overcome your jitters to have an incredible night!

Source: https://www.swinger.net/how-to-get-over-swinging-jitters-for-first-timers/