The toronto dating scene is tough, amirite?this reddit sure does help, but I noticed that the majority of the posts are M4F, meaning the competition is fierce amongst my fellow males. I've come across quite a few of those posts, and apart from some advice, or generic compliments, or tumbleweeds blowing, nothing much is being discussed.

Whereas F4M posts garner quite the responses from everyone tossing their hat in (hoping to hear good news from our friend in her 30s who likes steak ^.^)

I even had one post up last month looking for a date to a concert in Buffalo next month to check out a band that really makes some good music - Citizen Soldier. short of two DMs, that got no responses after I answered, nothing happened. Asides from a copycat request a short while later (I started a trend, yay me).

I'm all for putting my best foot forward, but ladies, from your perspective, how does a guy post about wanting to meet up, find love etc. on what would essentially be a blind date, without sounding too needy, or worse, insane?

Like what I would envision as being the optimum scenario, is if everyone introduces themselves in a paragraph (WITHOUT using ChatGPT) and then those interested can DM them.

When a post is made and plenty of comments follow, i can see it becomes difficult to keep track of things.

I also feel dating in our 30s should be easier, we've amassed some experience, we know what we're looking for, and we're past the horny teenager phase of "lets go someplace dark and quiet". we've also been working for a while so we can do better than fast food (not that there's anything wrong with that, I am still on the hunt for the best shawarma in town, and if it takes a date to find it then sign me up!)

So, sound off: how do the Ms of the M4F equation garner the attention of the latter? I've seen people post about themselves, their likes, dislikes, physical attributes etc. and I am hoping there is something going on behind the scenes in the DMs.

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