Hi all - male half of married newbie couple here. My wife and I had a long conversation this morning and I've come to realization that I think I really deep down just want to watch my wife play rather than participate myself.

For the experienced couples out there, what are your thoughts on couples where the wife wants to play and the husband just mainly wants to watch? I say "mainly" because I could see where I might get the urge to participate but I don't want that to be the expectation.

It's take me a lot of soul searching to get to this point as I worked through some assumptions around how I thought I "should" feel in the LS. We've done a few swaps, one of which was frankly with about as hot a woman as I think I would ever expect to play with, and I frankly would have preferred to just stop and watch the other couples play with my wife. I think I'd rather just start that way and see if I end up enjoying the experience more.