Looking for advice on anything I may be missing as my wife and I progress toward our first single guy experience. Some background: Wife and I are LS newbies. Two couples soft swaps under our belt. We recently discussed the idea of a single guy for her (MFM most likely).
We found a single guy on SDC. He and I texted a bit the other day and she opened up a one on one text discussion with him last night. All indications are that he’s respectful, experienced, and all around checks the boxes for her. She was giddy while she was texting and she normally hates the texting part of things.
Our primary challenge with LS activities is finding the time on our schedule with kids. Rather than wasting a babysitter on a single guy that may or may not be pan out, I suggested to her that maybe she meets him one on one for a drink after work this week to judge chemistry in person. I trust her completely and as long as it’s in a public place I feel ok. The guy has about 30 validations on SDC from other couples so I hopeful he isn’t a safety risk for her.
I’ve told her that my preference for play time is for me to be there in person, at least the first time. I might just watch. I understand this would be a full swap for her and I’m very good with that. I’m excited for her and this would fulfill a fantasy of mine.
If she meets him by herself, we will discuss any boundaries, mainly don’t leave with him or get in his car. We will also plan on specific check-ins (when she arrives, when she leaves, etc.) What else should I be thinking about to make this a safe and awesome experience for my wife?

If any of you are curious on how this goes, I'll try to keep you updated here.

UPDATE (1/28) - casual flirty texting is ongoing (maybe 10-15 minutes of texting between them each night). Neither my wife, nor the guy have suggested meeting in person, YET. I think the single guy is moving the discussion that direction. Further discussion on the in-person meeting topic between my wife and I has landed us on this approach - The 3 of us will meet in person but my wife and I will take separate cars. After an hour or so, if my wife and I are both comfortable with the guy, I will likely head home. Still clear boundaries around no play on that date but I do think giving the two of them a chance to connect and flirt without me there will be fun. We'll see how it goes.