We are both new to the LS and primarily meeting couples on “dates”. First dates are always set up as “no play/expectations”. We recently had a first date with a couple for drinks/dinner. Great conversation that led to some light making out between all of us at a nearby bar in a dark corner. We left the date with all saying they were interested and wanting to meet again for a true play date. We all communicated via a 4-way chat the next day that we were interested. Up to that point the other wife and I were the most active on the chat with both other spouses involved but less into the texting thing. A few days later my wife did express that she wasn’t 100% sure about the guy. It did feel like the other wife and I clearly had way more chemistry than she and the other husband did. That said, my wife and the other husband seemed a little more shy and waiting for the other to initiate.
My wife noted that they both worked in the same area and said she would really like the chance to meet the other husband for coffee or lunch during a workday to try to find a connection. Something very vanilla. I sent a direct text to the husband asking if something like that would be against their rules and if they would be interested. He responded that it was against their rules. No big deal. It didn’t seem like a big deal to him that we asked.
About two weeks after that text exchange with the husband, the wife ghosted and left the 4-way chat. We shot a quick note to the husband to see if they were ok and nothing. So what do you think? Did we screw up by suggesting a separate meeting or do you think it is something else?