We are new to the LS, and we're on the sites that make sense in our area (SLS and Kasidie). I tend to overthink everything (not just LS stuff). So when we muster the courage to overcome our middle school insecurities, we send a message to a couple. Sometimes, these people actually respond- and we set up a meeting. (Not responding is a whole other rant).

Two things tend to be incredibly awkward- first, the convo back and for the before the meeting (on kik or whatever). Do you actually chat back and forth, or do you just set the schedule? I mean, you want to get to know the other people, but you don't (or at least I am under the impression that you don't) want to seem over-eager or creepy. So there's that- any ideas?

The second is the meet itself- does anyone not recognize the incredible insanity of a "meet for drinks" scenario? It's like this: -We saw you on a website, and assuming that the you that you put on the internet is anywhere close to the actual you, we think you might be hot and fun. -Now we are meeting you. We want to learn all kinds of things about you, but we aren't sure we trust you enough to tell you very much about us. -While all of this is going on in our heads, the reality is that we are really just trying to decide if we are DTF. This decision may or may not have anything to do with the aforementioned considerations. We assume the other couple is making the same evaluation, but we don't really know their criteria...

So, does anyone find that early period of communication to be incredibly awkward, and, if so, do you have any tips on how to mitigate the awkwardness?

And since I'm here- what about flirting? Honestly, I have spent most of the last 15 years thinking that I needed to hurt anyone who is flirting with my wife. One day I wake up and WANT people to flirt with her (and a whole lot more). And, at some point, I'm supposed to flirt with the other wife (or SO). How do you mentally adjust to flirting again?

This should be like four posts. I'm new to Reddit.

(Sorry this is so long)...