Me and my partner are new to swinging. I’m a woman and he is a man, at first it was just women since I’m queer and wanted more time with women, he recently agreed to including men into the equation. I lost my virginity to an old friend in college and to this day, it was my favorite experience. I can’t tell if it’s because I lost my virginity or if the guy was just that special. But this week, after years of just casual conversations between us, he reached out and said he missed me. I want to make it clear that I never had romantic feelings for this guy ever, only sexual. My partner said we can’t bring anyone into the bedroom who I have or had romantic feelings for (like an ex partner). But I’m afraid to bring this up because I’ve had sex with this guy before, and he maaaay have feelings for me. So I wasn’t sure if anyone had a situation similar to this where things worked out so I can share them with my partner.