Just needing some advice or outside perspective.

Preface: Partner and I were in a casual relationship for over a year and became an official couple now dating over a year. Feelings were caught while casual and got a little messy but most can be chalked up to casual nothing major. She was involved with an ex in the lifestyle that she kept seeing after the breakup and doing lifestyle things for the next year or so while we saw each other casually.

We are both pretty experienced in the lifestyle for 5 years and have had the dirty talk and conversations about other joining and decided to actively pursue. Reddit/apps were made and she is the one doing the screening and there has been zero effort or interest shown for almost 3 months now.

Few things I need perspective on:

•There has been some discrepancies or half truths told in the past as far as the ex and few past partners still in contact that skew what the connection actually was. All that has been cleaned up and chalk it up to her feeling ashamed about some of the situations and really doesn’t bother me.

Q-Should this carry more weight with not being fully transparent?

• Her last relationship/situation-ship was not healthy and pretty manipulative by the ex. It’s hard not to compare that she would give so freely lifestyle wise during the relationship and after they separated (he left for another woman and then came back) but I get told she wants the things and no follow through.

Q-Is it wrong of me to feel like I deserve more effort and follow through in the things she is telling me she is wanting?