Over time we (myself 29F & husband 30M) have slowly been building up the relationship with our very good friends (25F & 27M) and it has reached the thresh hold of soft swinging. We have had 2 experience so far and have realized that the other husband isn't being much of a "team" player. He has a habit of making the experience more about him alone than a group activity where we all can help each other get off....where the rest of us are trying to listen to each other and do things that feel good for every one but...he jack hammers and only jack hammers, he edges him self to the point that even though the rest of the group as finished we all now have to take turns to try to get him off, He will sometimes treat the females like a piece of meat, and often gives a feeling of being very sexually selfish.

Any advice on how to communicate any of this to him without hurting his feelings? I am so very open to continuing this relationship with them but It's starting to become hard to want to do this because my sexual experience with my husband is so much more enjoyable.