We organize parties at home, and we go to parties, events, resorts, takeovers. Over the past 20 years we realized you can have great food, a beautiful venue, awesome play spaces.... all that does not matter if you don't have the right people attending.

If you own a club, you typically don't discriminate, because you have fixed costs and anybody willing to pay is welcome. If you host parties at home and you don't charge, you only invite people that you are attracted to, that you have played with before, who match your sexual preferences and experience. For example, we invite experienced couples with a bisexual woman and a straight man, between 45 and 65 years old, and make very few exceptions.

If you are NiN or a cruise, there are so many people attending that there is something / someone for everyone. You don't need to discriminate or cherry pick. But if you organize smaller events or charge for parties at your house, for let's say between 100 and 300 people, it is a good idea to have a group as homogenous as possible.

For example, you have "Young Swingers Week" or "Bisexual week" at Hedo. So I would encourage event organizers to mimic that: have 21 to 40, 35 to 55, and 50 events. Have a newbie event vs an Experienced/DTFonly event. People who have things in common get along easily.

Else, get people to wear color bracelets: newbie/experienced, bi/straight, Full/soft/voyeur; DTF/Sapiosexual,... that way you don't waste your time.