Myself (m) and my partner (f) are thinking of doing something big for my 40th birthday early next year. We are weighing up the options between going to Desire RM or going to Thailand for some sexually charged fun.

We have never been to either place, and have only ever had tame/normal holidays. Both of us went to Mex recently and had a good time at a regular resort, but it got a little boring at times.

We know what we would be getting at Desire, open to play couples, but we may able be a little bored again with the same ole same ole. We always play together, same room, so not sure if that will put people off.

Thailand would be a bit of an adventure, and where we may not have the openness of the couples, we would be able to hire some company and get a little kinky with new things. Trying new foods and sightseeing would also be a big one.

So wanted to get the opinions of other people on here to see what your take on it would be.

Hoping some of the couples here have been to Thailand and places like Desire and can share their sexual opinions on it.