So recently we had a conversation with a couple and my wife is really into the husband. We offered to take them out on a date, because this is their protocol. Long story short, they flaked about an hour before we were set to meet. No skin off of my back, not the first time nor will it be the last.
Fast forward to this past weekend. One of our āregularsā was over for a visit. Conversations were hot and things were moving towards having some fun. Then came the moment where my wife used our safe word to let me know she wasnāt feeling it. I politely let them know that things were not happening and ātookā the blame.
I asked if my wife was feeling okay or if there was something I missed. She replied that she had a conversation while I was mixing up more drinks that the couple we were supposed to play with weeks ago had ditched us for them instead. The reason they gave was that they were not into my wifeās mom bod.
She has recently taken off a few pounds and has been exited that her ass is ālooking goodā in her sexy panties. For the record I love her body no matter how she looks. But this was a blow and now sheās not wanting to shut down playing but sheās down on herself for being the reason. Knowing where this came from and the amount of drinking that went on, I have no reason to believe this was malicious. This was gossip and I honestly feel that it slipped.
I have done my best to be supportive and let her know that her efforts are not wasted and no one else thought she had a bad body. That we were all ready to play and that sheās the life of the party that had us all turned on.
We donāt have clubs, to go and help get her mojo back. She wants to keep playing but has doubts about her sexiness. I donāt want to put things on hold to where she thinks itās her fault but I also donāt know that she believes me. I have reached out to our female play partners to take her for a girls day. I know that will help. Iāve just never have seen someone get so down over a rejection. Normally we politely move on. Has anyone ever had a partner get like this and how did you move forward?
I asked my wife exactly how things went down and she told me that she commented to the wife how she had hoped things would go well with the couple that flaked. She really felt there was a good rapport established and couldnāt understand why they would back out. She said we knew in our gut they were not being honest about their reasons. She reiterated that she would really enjoy the husband. It was at that point that the wife of the couple stated that they were definitely good in bed. She said they met with them on the night we would have been out. They were also told they ditched us for them. I will not repeat the hurtful things said about reasons. This did not stop couple two from playing that night. As of this evening both couples have been dropped from our contacts and have been told to cease communication with us.
We have ceased communication with them.
Just wanted to comment to say I'm sorry that this happened. That really sucks. I don't think I have a terrible body, but definitely a dad bod and my wife might have a little mom bod going on (she sees it more than I do) but she's definitely super sexy. I do question sometimes if play partners aren't as into me because I'm not as fit as she is and it's not a comfortable position to be in. Not only is it a blow to the ego, you also feel like you're letting down your spouse.
You seem like a really cool dude and I'm glad to hear how supportive you are of your wife. If sure she's super sexy and it really sucks that she's had this little setback.
Iāve talked to her about the MFM and sheās on board. As far as our regulars, Iām not sure reconciling is how I would define things. We accepted their apologies and were moving on without them.
Definitely not something we condone. Had I known immediately that it happened, I would have ended things there. You donāt get to talk to my wife like that.
We havenāt had issues in the past. They have been good partners in and out of the bedroom. Unfortunately sometimes we make bad choices and this was one. We have cut ties and will move forward.
Itās one of my favorite things to do.
Thank you. We appreciate the support and positive comments from everyone!
We definitely had a good groove until this happened. Those that are close and know that we are in the LS have been reaching out and been very supportive. We use the phrase āfamily donāt end with bloodā. Our LS friends are proving that to be true today.
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