Having played in the lifestyle for a few years now, thought I’ll share a few things

• Make sure you’re physically fit , I know I know all types of people are welcome in the lifestyle. Nothing against anyone, your odds of meeting a couple are way higher when you’re fit.

• Always have a few pics handy , mostly SFW pics , share nudes only when asked . If you wanna brag about your size , maybe click a few semi- nude ones where you’re hard as a rock with your underwear on but the erection is quite evident in the pic .

• Make sure you’re well groomed down there and that it’s clean .

• Having a recent STD helps.

• Most couples usually meet at hotels , they usually don’t prefer meeting at their home.

• Have strong arms . I know why strong arms ? I’ve noticed in the lifestyle women love guys with strong arms . I guess that’s the case with women across anywhere .

• Learn to perform oral sex like a pro. She’ll end up taking you home . Not kidding. There are tons of posts online . Read them and implement . You’ll be amazed what it’ll do for your experience later as well .

• I don’t recommend watching adult content to learn anything but if you could look up videos of Owen Gray/ DFW knight , you’ll learn a few things that help alot when it comes to lovemaking.

• You aren’t better than her husband/ Bf , don’t try to be that . Cuckolding is different from hotwifing / stag vixen / Swinging

• Be okay with rejection. Dont take it personally

• When you meet them for the first time at a public place , communicate normally but don’t ask too many personal questions . Many aren’t that comfortable sharing personal info.

• Don’t be too aggressive in your approach.

• Up your Cardio , you’ll know why .

• I’ve seen Husbands who look like freaking Calvin Klein models and a thick big dick . Not all of these women are looking for something ‘better’ , many are just looking to add a little spice to their sex life.

• Just like many complain about fake singles online , there are many fake couples as well who are mainly single guys seeking pics .

• Don’t judge or assume . Unlike what the internet portrays , many of these couples are your typical next door neighbours and lead normal lives .

• I’ll be honest about one thing , it’s way easier said than done . If you do well with women in real life , you’ll do well with couples as well - just something I’ve noticed.

• Avoid contacting couples who’ve mentioned ‘No single guys’ .

• In most cases the husband runs the account , so don’t flirt right away .

• Befriend and talk to her husband/ Bf first , it’ll make it way more easier for you.

• There isn’t some secret code or a hack but a many such minor things that drastically increase your chances.

• Be respectful, funny and positive . Dont act like you’re owed anything.

• If things move forward, ask the guy what kind of dynamics he is seeking or if they expect a certain something for you.

• They are a couple . There are two people involved even though you’re only talking to one .

• There are some couples where even if you’re the hottest guy on the planet , they won’t find you attractive until you have a conversation with them . Sure she thinks you look good but for her to sleep with you , she’ll need to talk to you first to make sure your vibes are matching , she finds you funny etc

• Share a few pics , some in a casual setting , some from formal event , a few tease pics as well . Hide half your face and verify later via video if they ask .

• Yea it’s basically sex but there’s a lot more . Having a conversation, making her laugh , finding common interests , just have a good time

• Don’t lie about being Bi and later on say you’re okay if he only wants to suck .

• Basically don’t lie

• Be Patient , it’s worth it

• Make sure your profile depicts personality, wit and someone who’s seems kinda cool.

• Try not to use words such as ‘Bull’ ‘Hung ‘ etc

• You’re not some Gift by God and that your dick as healing powers.

• Act normal , be mindful how you communicate with them , be quick to verify , compliment but don’t act desperate

• If you do well with women in your day to day life, you’ll probably end up doing well in this lifestyle.

• For couples , 99 % of single guys are just not worth their time . Ask yourself if you’re in the 1 % , Are you good looking, Can you make her laugh , are you confident, are you fit and have good stamina , are you okay with another naked guy around , do you have strong communication skills .

• Try not communicating endlessly , ask them for a drink or a cup of coffee.

• Most people have a life outside of swinging as well , careers , kids , hobbies etc . If you meet them once , don’t assume you’ll meet them every weekend even if you guys had a good time . I meet my regular couple friends like once a month .

• Let me tell you again , vibing is extremely important . Something I cannot explain , it’s something you just have to experience.

• Bring up topics/ideas they’ve mentioned in their profile

• You have nothing to lose so take rejection too seriously and avoid pestering them .

• If you meet up once and things go well , don’t assume you’re friends with the couple where they’ll want to hangout soon , make them meet their friends etc .

• It’s not a competition, you don’t need to prove you’re a sex machine . Don’t go about Jackhammering straight away , sure there’s a time for that as well . But start slow, be in the moment , the amazing experience and sexual rendezvous.

• If you’re planning for a meet up , try building some tension a few days prior . Make her your number 1 priority, if he won’t be participating and just watching or he won’t be in the same room . It’s mental for him and sexual for her . So act accordingly.

• Please the lady so bad that she’ll recommend you to her Gf’s . Make her feel special . Reflect all those qualities that they found attractive in the first place .

• Don’t drink too much . They’ll hamper your performance.