Me and my wife are still fairly new to swinging and just had a month relationship with a couple where we swapped a few times. The other night the couple began yelling at each other very vulgarly and getting physical with one another. We have decided not to be around them anymore but I am having a hard time letting go. Feeling sick almost like a breakup and missing the couple. Has anyone gone through this and any kind of advice on how to get over this feeling because it is tearing me apart to where I’m not eating.
Earlier on in our LS entry, we had grown very close to a particular couple. They weren't our first (although my wife was the other husbands first--they had a dynamic where they wife played but he generally didn't) and they weren't local, but we'd speak every day and get together whenever we could. They were the first LS couple we'd had sex with in our marital bed (no longer a hang up), first ones to sleep over our home, first ones we'd do hotel sleepovers with, etc. We talked every day and were super close...
We weren't exclusive and we didn't make it a secret that we were fucking other people, though there was almost an unspoken 'pre-poly vibe' and it seemed to work out until one night at a Hotel Takeover when we'd taken the female half of a couple we'd started playing with back to our room and were having a bit of fun. We'd left the door unlocked with the knowledge they'd be coming around to fetch us and could join the party---when they actually came around though their reaction was pure horror and it was the turning point in the relationship.
From there daily chats started to fade away (primarily the other female) and the male half got more conservative in what he'd joke about. They never found time for us in their schedule again nor invited us to their wedding (LS friendly) after telling us we were invited. They just kind of faded from our lives.
It wasn't devastating, but it did hurt us both. Even if we couldn't play anymore we both really valued their friendship.
Thank you! This helps a lot and yes they had only ever swapped with one other couple before us. I just liked the feeling of being close to one couple both emotionally and physically. I’m just ready for this feeling of depression to be gone
She was not as attached as I was. I just had a strong connection with the female maybe because she reminded me so much of my wife until I saw the other side of her
I was wondering the same thing and wish I knew on how to not get attached so quickly.
They were arguing about the rules they put in place with us. There was no punching but she threw a remote at him and she slapped him and he pushed her down onto the couch
How long did it take for you to get over them
The hard part about the whole thing is I love the feeling of having a new connection with someone but then get hurt bad when that blows up in my face
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It’s not guilt. I’m just wondering if I’m a person who gets attached to someone to quickly even though I don’t want to