Me and my fiance are very new to this lifestyle, we have yet to do anything yet. We have been to a local bar a couple times but never advanced to anything outside of that. My question is how do you and your partner choose a couple? We eventually will get to swapping and things but we want to start with me and my fiance being watched, and the women play a bit. Do you both have to be equally interested or do you bite the bullet once in awhile if your partner shows more interest? Is there ever a concern of choosing play partners and your partner becoming jealous? Sorry for all the questions, we don't have a swingbassador as one may call it lol