My husband and I have been swinging for a little less than a year, mostly with other couples. He’s been open from the start that he loves seeing me have sex with other men and he’d love to try a MFM threesome.

I’m very hesitant to try for various reasons. Mostly, I can’t get past the general sense that it would feel like I’m being shared, or passed around, or just an object for the men to fuck. Perhaps for some women that’s part of the appeal, but it’s kind of a turnoff for me. I just feel like the whole dynamic might be overwhelming for me.

Are there any women out there who thought they wouldn’t like MFM and ended up liking it? If so, what considerations should I keep in mind as we seek a partner, and during the experience itself, to make it most enjoyable for me? I would love to make this fantasy a reality for my husband, but I want the experience to be enjoyable for me, and not just about fulfilling his fantasy.