My partner (M) and I (F) have been doing this for almost a year and we recently got too big for our britches and had to reject a couple we had played with who wanted more from us that we weren’t ready to give. It was tough since we’re both not equally comfortable with the same things, but moving at the pace of the one with more boundaries is always the move. Going forward we’re setting much stricter limits on who we talk to and being more upfront about what we will do. I’ve also decided I’m going to be honest and say that I’m not bi. Maybe I’ll kiss your wife but I really don’t prefer it and would rather not lead her on that I’m interested.
So now we’re in this place where we only want to do parallel play or be watched and no soft swap outside of touching/fondling. We also are interested in a FMF threesome. Hopefully as we continue on our boundaries will widen, but I’m wondering if what we want is realistic to begin with. Who is going to fuck with us or more accurately, next to us? Who is going to be patient enough to let us figure shit out in real time? I’m wondering if anyone like us exists and what it took for you to either A. Find couples also into what you wanted and B. What it took for you to feel ready for swapping. Thanks!
We are actually going to a party tomorrow! I’m excited since we haven’t been to one in a while. We talked about our goals and we’re hoping to find and flirt with couples we both find attractive and hopefully play next to them, exchange info and do more in the future.
I fully agree with you that parties are the way to go. We get crickets online but when we show up looking like our best selves to events we’re bound to get approached. Only issue with that is how expensive they are 🙃
In terms of an escort, I would be surprised if we ever decided to financially commit to that, it’s simply out of our budget at this stage in our lives. My partner is more interested in the FMF threesome than myself but I’m still very game for it. I wouldn’t mind doing some heavier petting with a unicorn if it meant he got to have that experience. He’s hot so I’d imagine she’d want to spend just as much or if not more time on his pleasure than mine which we would vet for when finding someone.
And yeah, it will be cool to see where our desires grow from here! We just want to air on the side of being cautious so we don’t waste our time and get discouraged.
Thanks for the well wishes!
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I feel you. I hope you can experience tons of swinger fun while sticking true to your preferences!