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Had to fire sitter day of booking after I’d already left town
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tldr: sitter messages me that she’s mad she can’t have bf/ex bf AND mom over to my house when I’m already 3 hours away for my toddlers birthday trip. Got to my house before I could confirm new arrangements. Asked her to leave immediately.

This is long and I’m sorry, and it’s a throwaway because I don’t want this on my main, but JFC I’m so annoyed. And pissed. I booked a sitter in late February for a trip in July. Sitter arrived Sunday (yesterday) and I asked her to leave almost immediately. I was already 3 hours from home and she had the audacity to message me she’s “frustrated she can’t have guests” because she “made it clear” that she had a long term partner she needed to spend time with. To be clear, when I requested the dates, at no point did she say ANYTHING about having her bf over. I even went back to those messages. Her bf came up at the meet & greet, but did not attend. During this time I said she’s welcome to use the pool during her stay, and that’s when she asked if she could have her bf over to swim. I felt so uncomfortable, put on the spot, and like I didn’t have a choice but to say “maybe, I guess?” I also said I would need to discuss it with my husband. But apparently all she heard was yes her bf/guests could just come and go as they please. A month before the reservation she tells me the boyfriend is abusive/controlling and they broke up, and she was using the time surrounding my booking to pack up her things. I was planning to discuss the guest situation, but then she shared this information and I was like well, I guess there’s no point in addressing it? Anyway, she messaged me the day before or two days before, don’t remember at this point, and said “I haven’t invited my SO over yet but I’ll let you know when I do” or something to that effect. I was a little confused given the previous texts regarding their breakup. I replied and said that I discussed it again with my husband and we just don’t feel comfortable with it. I didn’t go into detail, but this feels like a liability to me. What if something happens in my home? She sprung it on me at the meet and greet and he did not attend. I don’t even know what this guy looks like or his name. She tells me “that’s unfortunate” because her “mom is here helping her pack.” Now I’m thinking wtf, you were wanting to have your now-ex bf AND your mom at my house? Even if I agreed to the boyfriend going swimming, that’s not an open invitation to invite whoever you want. The mom comment made me even more uneasy and I ended up asking my neighbor across the street to keep an eye out, but intended on keeping the booking. There was no mention of the mom coming to my home in June when she messaged me about their breakup, either. So at that point I’m asking myself “was she…planning on using our house to host her mom while she’s in town?” and my husband is asking me if we’re going to have squatters now. Like whoa, isn’t a fricken AirBnB! Anyway, I apologized, and perhaps should’ve said I thought the guest situation didn’t need to be addressed given the circumstances with the bf (especially since that was the only guest she asked about), but I didn’t. I confirmed she wanted to use the pool (I have a safety net and debris cover that take a bit of work to remove) and made sure it was ready. I sent her my friends’ numbers for any emergencies, and I thought everything was cool and she was fine with not having her boyfriend over to swim. Again, I hired this person to watch my animals, not plan a pool party for her (ex?) boyfriend and mother. Tf.

Yesterday afternoon, while I assume she was on her way to my house, she sends me a message about being frustrated (let’s be real, she was pissed) she can’t have guests. It felt like I was trying to be guilt tripped and if she felt so strongly about my rules to message me 30 mins after my booking should’ve started that she “respects my decision BUT” a, b, and c, I no longer felt comfortable with HER in my home or watching my pets. She went off telling me that I “knew she had a long term partner she needed to spend time with” and that “this is the last time she’s going to be here” and is “moving away on Wednesday.” In reality she asked if he could come over to swim and it’s a different story now that their relationship has changed and she’s moving out of state. Idk, not my problem and I’m starting to feel like she was planning on basically having this guy over 24/7. She also told me instead of canceling my booking she came back out here to watch my pets (for context her mom flew her out of state after this fight/break up), and I’m thinking, wait, you told me you were coming to pack your stuff? It costs more to travel here than I was paying you, so that makes no sense to come here for a four day booking but Idk. And then she tells me she thought her mom could come meet my cats. UM WUT? Why? Like why would she bring her mother to a strangers house to meet their cats???? It just makes more sense now that she was probably planning to do more at my house than just watch my pets. The whole thing was weird. I apologized and told her it’s clear not being allowed to have guests is an issue for her and I will have someone else come sit. I asked her to please leave my home and cancel the booking. I reached out to Rover for a refund and to make sure it was canceled. I had literally 4 neighbors watching my house to make sure she left and deactivated her code immediately.

My previous rover experiences have been so great that I am stunned by this one. If someone is a regular sitter or knows someone well then guests might not be an issue. But for a first time booking…guests are definitely a no for me. I shared the messages with my friends who were all like…this is weird for sure. Is this standard practice for sitters to expect to invite multiple people to their home? The kid that’s coming for drop ins is also bringing his parents by, which I don’t mind, as they are neighbors and one of my neighborhood friends knows them well. But like, he’s also 15. This girl is not.

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The only guest I've ever had is my teenage son, and if I expect him to come over he comes with me to the meet and greet.

I can't imagine using a client's house like an Airbnb and throwing a pool party!

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