I (40f) am upset. I am upset because my husband (49m) is upset, and my husband is upset because his new “best friend” keeps flaking out on him. We’re in isolation because my husband is immunocompromised and ya know, there’s a pandemic. Because of this, my husband and his friend can’t hang out together in person.

The thing is, they could text, phone, Zoom, FaceTime, play Animal Crossing together...you get the point. The friend promises to call or whatever and then just...doesn’t. He’ll tell my husband about talking to someone else on the phone for hours. Sometimes he texts, but then just drops the conversation mid flow.

So now my husband is confused, his feelings are hurt, and at this point he’s starting to get angry. I’m upset for him, but I don’t really know what to say to help him deal with this.

So any advice, fellow grownups?

Should I just stay out of it? I’m not even sure if I CAN stay out of it. My husband and I are very close and discuss our feelings often.

Thanks for reading!

UPDATE: My husband Hail Mary-ed a text message that prompted the friend to respond. They are currently talking on the phone and the friend says he’s not tired of being friends, his wife just had him busy with a honey do list. I guess that’s good. Thank you to all those who answered. I appreciate anyone who took the time to read and offer some perspective on the situation.