As a guy with this kink. As a guy on the internet generally.. it can feel almost impossible to find women who want to do a little more than fantasize and sit there while you put in effort to craft scenes in their inboxes..

A lot have this and others kinks.. they want to take the leap but it is scary for them because there are so many unknowns and the fantasy is enough to get them by. That's okay. Enjoy that for what it is.

The ones that want more.. They are out there. I've had the good chance to meet some via reddit and other apps. Not this subreddit as I recently joined it. Still.. it's possible and with the good ones the experience can be amazing even beyond the kink.

Just be patient, understand/respect boundaries and do your best to remember it's an actual person that you are sharing this fantasy with.. not a meatbag that wants to be hurt/scarred for real.