I've lately been in quite a bit of limbo on dating and relationships. Online dating has been like going through job applications and interviews, and the lack of something seemingly "natural" has been difficult. Recent health issues related to family genetics (don't worry, fixable) have also come into play, and it's been having me decide that perhaps not having the normal "family" isn't for me.

But I'm hungry for intimacy. The getting to know someone without any expectations, coupled with the rawness of wanting someone physically and being an object of pleasure. To be aroused just by the sight of the right person knowing it'll lead to something electric. And to get to know them as we go through this process.

I'll be honest and say I'm looking for a friend with benefits, with "friend" also being a key word; something more physical and intimate, where I can release and take control, but also can flip that and be the object of someone's affection. Something raw, be able to explore with. Maybe we have a few laughs on the way. I've heard it called a "situationship," but I don't really know if it's that if I'm going to be honest.

About me: 39 year old Asian man, tall (6'1"), in shape (exercise regularly). Stable white collar job, plays music, enjoy reading, have a pet and houseplants that are all doing well, enjoys a nice time out for lunch or dinner, can hold my end of a conversation. Very talented with my hands and tongue in more than a few ways.

Looking for: A confident and kind woman that is looking for someone to just have fun activities with, including those in the bedroom. I'm pretty flexible on race though my preferences have mostly been with white or Asian women. I do prefer height-weight proportional (e.g., thin, average, fit, curvy in the right places), and that you be local (in the DC/DMV area), also ddf. I'm also not one to judge people's situations, and can and will be discreet.

Hope to hear back.