I want to be with someone who I can feel relaxed around; I hate the stress of being around people who get set off by the smallest thing. I want someone whose love language is physical affection, who is warm and compassionate, who will laugh with me, cry with me, who will hold me when I’m not at my best, and who I can hold when they’re being challenged by life. I want someone who I can be open with, who I can trust, who will fight for me just like I’ll fight for them, and who will put just as much into the relationship as I will.

As for me, I am a person who loves physical displays of affection, both public and otherwise, so I want to be with someone who feels the same way. I believe that hugging and/or cuddling the one you love is one of the greatest feelings there is. Gestures like holding, hugging, etc, are something I absolutely adore and would always welcome, especially because there’s nothing that feels better than being in the arms of the person you love, and something like that can make you feel as if, for just a few moments, that all is right with the world.

When my girlfriend, a term I prefer because it feels more personal, and I are together, my ideal night would involve spending our time together at home, curled up on the sofa, perhaps watching a film, or playing a game. I’m not against the occasional day/night out if it’s just the two of us, though. I watch almost nothing in the way of current television or films; I don’t even have a TV, and I’m not in a hurry to get one. And I watch little in the way of sport.

If we’re apart, as I presume would be the case in the early days of our relationship, then I would enjoy doing something together online, either playing a game together, or watching each other game. Ultimately, I want someone I can hold close, who will hold me close. I want us to love together, laugh together, cry together; I want us to live our lives together, in a relationship that goes the distance.

I’m a vegetarian, though I don’t mind being around meat eaters as long as they are respectful of how I feel. I don’t drink and, while I’m okay being with someone who does, it won’t work if you’re a person who drinks frequently. I’m non-religious and non-spiritual, and this will never change, and my views are generally what you’d call progressive and liberal. Disparate views are one thing, but if you use terms like ‘PC/PC culture’, ‘liberal’ or ‘woke’ as pejoratives, we will absolutely not get along. In addition, I do not smoke and will not be with a smoker.

I’m okay with either private messaging or Reddit chat, and I’d like to move off Reddit once we both feel comfortable doing so. Once we’ve moved to a different platform, exchanging pictures is then also something that would be done once we’re both comfortable, as would voice and video chat, especially because the best way to really get to know someone is through real-time communication.

Your opening message doesn’t have to be that long, just give me something to work with, something that can spark conversation. Messages of only a few words won’t get a response, because that means you’re either not putting any effort into this, or, more likely, you’re a bot, which there are far too many of around here.

If you have any questions, queries, posers, then feel free to ask.

I’m in the UK, so I am primarily interested in someone who is also in the UK, as it would make things convenient for the both of us, and it would also make meeting up easier, and I would want to meet up if things progress well. However, I am open to talking to people who are overseas,but only if you’re moving to the UK in the near future, and that the move is, if not set in stone, then is at least guaranteed to happen. If these conditions are not meant, I ask that you don’t waste my time or yours; I can’t do a long-term LDR. Be aware that, for medical reasons, I am unable to travel overseas.