Hello there…… (as I say in my best Ewan McGregor /Kenobi impression)

What is there it say, dating today, and in our 40s is a lesson in futility. We are for all intents and purposes a hamster running on "that wheel", a wheel that powers the lights, that gives us that dopamine fix. We are chasing something that we can never capture for if we stop running, the lights go out, we lose our fix… and thus we run again….

Anyway… enough of the existentialism lol.

I am here looking for a connection, the holidays are nigh upon us... my kids will be with there mother this week and I ... alone. I would love long term but I am a realist and understand the ebbs and flows of the r4r subreddits.  I’ve been on here long enough to know that what I want and what reality are, are two different things. And yet here I am….. a Duckie, a Tom, a Rick Blaine….

I’m 44, divorced, I have two teenage children that live with me. I “air quotes” co-parent with my ex, she lives in another state so I am for all intents playing super-dad. My children are my world, I’m passionate about my career, and I have a side gig as well. I’m 6’1, a dad-bod that I am working on, hazel eyes and brown hair that is more silver now than what I would like to admit. I’m spiritual but not religious, I am an independent centrist that yearns for the Democratic party that ushered in JFK’s New Frontier, or the progressive Republicans that supported Teddy Roosevelt as he created the National Park Service and combated the various ills of his day.

I love history, geography, politics and all in-between. I enjoy museums, art galleries, and concerts (when time permits). I love the outdoors, I am a volunteer with my children’s extracurricular activities which allows me to camp, hike, and backpack. I love to cook, enjoy craft beer, and DIY projects beyond just putting together Ikea furniture.  

I am also a geek, I loved Star Wars before it was everywhere, before the mouse. I love board games, and DnD. I’m not much of a video gamer as I once was due to time though I do have a Raspberry Pi that I run RetroPi on so I can get my NES and SNES fix. I enjoy good books (crime noir, sci-fi, fantasy, history, biographies, etc), great films and a wide range of music. I love time out just as much as I love time home, and quite moments on the couch... curled up.. playing with your hair.....

What do I want… someone to talk to.. text, voice chat, etc possibly meet if time and geography permit.

I want the world, but will settle for a virtual friend for the holiday season…..

I live in Maryland near Baltimore, and would prefer to meet someone relatively close by… but I am not one say no to someone further away….who knows maybe the stars will align, maybe a connection will be made be it down the street, in the next state, or across the ocean.

In your response tell me your favorite thanksgiving side dish (or favorite meal if thanksgiving is not your thing, or is something you do not celebrate).

I leave you with a song that has been appearing on my playlists as of late;

Torch by the Psychedelic Furs.

A thousand rainy days and I
Spoke on tongues that talk of saints
Burned down days like cigarettes
For your hollow praise

Down the days that you forget
Count the pictures that you keep
Keep it, hide it all away
Let it never show

All of this and I regret
Not a day that I was sent

Celebrated and arose
For your vanity in vain
Framed the faces I applaud
All the same sad eyes

Write the world between the lines
I heard it all, I heard it spoke
Like a name I call my life
Let it never show

All of this, I now regret
Not a day that I was sent

Not a name that I might place
Not at my parade
In the four walls of my room
Standing where I wait

Others praised and I can't come
Tore the pictures off my walls
There's a secret that I keep
Let it never show

All of this, I now regret
Not a day that I was sent
All of this, I now regret

Not a name that I might place
Not at my parade
Framed the faces I applaud
All the same, all alone

Write the world between the lines
I heard it all, I heard it spoke
In the four walls of my room
I'm just feeling all alone