Update to a previous post here… Last night the wife (29F) and I (28M) were talking about our sex life. She asked me if I was happy and if there was anything else I needed from her. This was the perfect opportunity to bring up the prostate massager I had purchased and to come clean and tell her that I want to explore using it together. After a short stint of quiet, I finally mentioned the toy and how I enjoyed using it myself and how I think it would be fun for us to do together and bring us closer together during intimacy. I was completely shocked in how receptive and open she was to hearing me speak of this. She is rather vanilla but hearing her say that she wants to explore this with me and could see herself getting into it was the best thing I could have heard. I’ve been feeling guilty having since purchased the toy behind her back as it felt like such an intimate act with myself. I am beyond happy that she was so much more open-minded than what I gave her credit for. Excited to see where this new path takes us on our intimacy journey! If you are feeling anxious bringing this up to your spouse, approach it as something you were interested in and that you want to try enjoying it together. If your communication is there, I imagine they will be as receptive as my wife was.

TLDR; I told my wife I bought a prostate vibrator without her knowing and liked using it. She was much more receptive than I thought she’d be and is excited to try it together. So, don’t be afraid and open up to your spouse about what feels good to you!