First time posting here and I’m hoping for some sort of ideas of what to do next.

Firstly let’s talk about my son. He is extremely smart to the point he is too smart for his own good. He can be manipulative if you aren’t smart enough to know better. He’s creative and funny. He has an unusually high vocabulary and speech skills. He loves nature and being outside getting muddy. He’s also very shy and what seems to be high anxiety. He attends an environmental school which lucky for us has a great curriculum and opportunities for him to experience.

He has a hard time initiating simple things such as making friends and asking questions to adults when he needs help. Supposedly he has NO friends and he says nobody likes him. I’ve seen him play with kids while I was volunteering for the school as a teacher assistant and the uniform lady.

Currently our son has been acting out and showing destructive behavior at school. From ripping up his class work and books to throwing chairs and making messes in the bathroom. He has now been written up for his behavior 3x in the past month. We have constant communication with the teacher along with phone meetings and recently an SST (student success team) meeting to address his behavior and sensory/developmental issues. At the meeting I thought great ideas were all on the table from all perspectives. All the people who attended including social worker, special education director, speech pathologist, etc... stated that he is such a great, sweet, smart kid and are shocked about his behavior. Nothing has changed besides the weather. When behavior started the punishment was indoor recess to work on his class work. To him this was a benefit because he says he has no friends to play with anyways and recess is boring. So now that recess will not be taken away he has continued to act out at school.

He’s been saying now for the past 2-3 weeks that he doesn’t feel well and he has been taken to the doctor multiple times where his pediatrician states: “he’s fine, nothings wrong, he’s 6 years old this is normal behavior.” I’ve even gone as far as to have his PD make a written statement for the school of what he has told me. We also think it’s more anxiety making him have stomach aches because when I was his age I felt the same exact way and still do. We’ve done many different strategies as far as changing his diet and sleep schedule which clearly has no effect.

A little back story is: In pre-school he was sent home every time he acted out or said he was sick. That resulted in a very long meeting about how wrong that was.

He does not act out at home and lets be honest he’s not a total angel but he does NOT show this behavior at home. He is extremely remorseful every time and I have given him consequences (no tv/game time) at home due to his unacceptable behavior at school. Honestly my kid is being a JERK at school for no reason. It doesn’t matter how many times we talk about it he always tries to place the blame on someone else in the end.

Any ideas? Anyone experiencing the same issues? WTF should I do next!? Am I being too mean taking away tv time because he’s being a jerk?