I'm nonbinary (AFAB). My SO is male and identifies as bisexual. I'm just confused about how to navigate in the LS space.

I've participated as the third for many couples in the past but so far my SO and I haven't participated in sexual activity with another person/people together but want to and have been talking about it for over a year.

I'm worried that my gender identity (or I) will be criticized because I look like a woman but have body hair and will most likely want to wear a binder or something similar, as well as wearing a dick (will work up to that in a given situation, I'm not going to 'whip it out' or walk around with it swinging around unless the mood permits!).

I also am confused about how we can identify ourselves as a couple. I know that many clubs don't allow men but will if accompanied with a woman. I feel like I would be lying and not being true to myself if I allow people to misgender me in order to gain acceptance. The same goes for meeting up with a couple/person. I know from past experiences that this will only be enjoyable for me if I am true, honest and open to myself and others.

Any advice or examples for couples like us??