I’m a 42-year-old man based in the north of England. I’m intelligent, sensitive, confident, and caring. I’m looking for a younger woman whom I can guide, support, and look after. I’m not looking to rush into anything and would be happy with friendship to begin with, but ideally I’m looking for a long term relationship in due course.

In relationships in the past, I’ve always felt happiest when I was the more experienced and confident one, looking after, guiding, and protecting my partner, and making her feel safe. Using the experience and confidence I’ve developed over the years to help her to become the person she wants to be. It’s not solely about age, it’s more about the dynamic - so I don’t really mind about your age, but I think it more naturally happens with a younger partner. It’s about being with someone who wants her boyfriend to be a guiding force in her life, a man she can grow to trust and respect and give herself to, a man who takes the lead and is caring, affectionate, supportive, patient, firm or even stern with her when necessary, but above all loving.

I’m 1.85m tall, about 78kg, with dark brown hair. I’m in decent shape and people generally tell me that I’m attractive and look younger than my age. I love books and would happily spend evenings curled up on the sofa together reading and cuddling. I love the theatre and films, live music or comedy, and country walks. I’m naturally a little reserved, but also sociable and adventurous. I’m down-to-earth, calm, grounded, and sensible. But I’m also light-hearted and I love to laugh. I’m not into casual encounters. I value integrity and honesty and have a firm sense of right and wrong. I'm enormously patient and have always found shyness attractive - I’m always happy to take things as slowly as my partner needs.

I tend to be attracted to slim, feminine women. Someone intelligent, caring, sensitive, and thoughtful, who can see the funny side of life. Someone who is my intellectual equal but who also wants to be able to give up certain responsibilities to her partner. I tend to be attracted to women who are on the quieter side. I find shyness and introversion far more attractive than arrogance or extroversion. I don’t mind if you are nervous or inexperienced - I would be happy to gently take the lead and help guide you.

I’m looking for someone who lives in the UK or Europe and is single with no kids. I’ll be happy to exchange SFW photos after we’ve chatted for a bit. If you want to know anything else, just ask.

If you think we might get on, please send me a chat request and say hi.