TW: Sexual Harassment.

Talagang when you belong in a community di maiiwasan ang issues no? From the smallest unit of Family to the entire social structure lahat may issues. Friends, Work, Church, other communities talagang andon ang issues.

After ng pandemic medyo naghahanap ako ng communities kasi naging lonely ako. I wanted a new group of friends, not because my old friends suck ha, pero I wanted new experiences with other people. May mga sinalihan akong GC, Subreddit, at Discord channels para maging active man lang. Aside from this, I took new hobbies at eto yung panggagalingan ng dilemma ko.

I tried cosplaying para medyo tumaas naman self confidence ko. It worked naman, pakapalan lang talaga ng mukha hahaha! Masasaktan ka lang if you let people who dislike your costume and shame you for it get to you. Not a small feat, pero considerigf na minority naman yung mga ganong tao sa community, madali siyang gawin kahit parang mahirap. Most of the PH cosplayers are very welcoming to everyone.

Anyway naging involved na ako sa community na to kasi sumaya ako eh, it was a positive experience for me. Pero syempre not everything is a field of flowers.

Lately parang dumarami yung mga tao na nanghaharass sa cosplayers. Akala nila kasi welcome na for them yung medyo revealing na costumes. Ano gagawin ng cosplayer kung medyo skimpy manamit gusto niya icosplay? It's not consent. Ask for permission kung gusto mo picturan sila in a sexualized manner, hindi yung parang they are letting you do it automatically kasi ganon costumes nila. Simple lang naman di ba, ask for consent. And if they say no, respect it.

Dito papasok dilemma: Karamihan ng mga harassers ngayon sa mga cosplayers nasa autism spectrum. They are essentially PWDs. Socially awkward people na di naman alam social cues ganon. One of the so called "harassers" have child trauma pa nga. Yet they harass cosplayers verbally and physically.

So ano gagawin ng mga cosplayers? Ipopost mga nanghaharass online. May actions like sasabihan mga event organizers or mall security para alisin yung mga harassers. Mga concerned party naman ng harassers dedepensahan yung nangharass, saying na dapat di pumapatol sa PWD and stuff.

Di ako directly affected but I am concerned. Ayoko naman na may mababastos, karamihan pa sa mga to eh minors. Ayoko naman din na mabully either side, gets ko naman kasi.

Kasi action ng cosplayer na naharass is to post it sa social meda kahit na tingin ko mali yon, tapos reaction naman ng kamag-anak ng nanghaharass eh depensahan yung harasser which is mali din kasi parang enabling na yon.

Just want other people's opinion on this. Wala namang tama or mali for me. Though iba opinion ko sa kung ano tama or mali legally hahaha! Yun lang naman. Nakakabother na din kasi.