Howdy! I'm looking for a dom! I'm pansexual but feel more comfortable submitting to feminine partners, so regardless of your identity, male, female, trans, non-binary, etc, if you have a feminine side, feel free to message me! I have middling experience in the BDSM scene, I found out when I was 19 or so that I am more comfortable in a submissive state and have been a sub in a handful of relationships, some serious, dating for months going on a year, meeting the family, etc. And others purely casual/sexual. Due to some bad experiences I've been out of the dating/sex scene for a year or so now, but this feels like a safe return to the scene. What I'm looking for, really, is a dom I can talk to about interests: books, history, video games, nature, whatever, be able to completely talk non-sexually just as naturally as we talk about kink. Ideally I'd like to be friends as well as sexual partners who have fun with each other, because of this I would prefer the ability to call as well as text, and if you live close, meet up for some non-kink activities as well as kinky scenes! I am interested in it evolving into a relationship if we really click. Speaking of, I am open to partners from anywhere, but if I could find someone in Tennessee near Chattanooga (I'm about a 30 minute drive from Chattanooga), that would be awesome! Now, if I have your interest, here's all you need to know about me! (Divided into sections: Non-Sexual Interests, Sexual Interests, Physical Description, You).

Non-Sexual Interests:

So, about me, I'm a fucking nerd. We're done, next section - OK, but for real, I have a lot of interests and hopefully you share some! I've been told by friends and partners alike one of my best qualities is how unashamedly I am into things and rant passionately about them, so if we do end up talking, prepare! (I also love learning other people's interests and leeching new knowledge/hobbies, so please tell me yours too!): I am into reading quite a bit, fantasy and history are my two biggest passions, but I also read horror, philosophy, mythology, sci-fi, queer writing, and honestly a bit of everything! I am also passionate about ancient/historical classics, from the Iliad to the Bhagavad Gita. I recently decided to read the four great Chinese classics. The first I went with was the Three Kingdoms, which I finished mid last year! I recently bought Water Margin/Outlaws of the Marsh around Christmas! I'm a big history buff and have an interest in everything from Renaissance Europe to Ancient Mesopotamia to Sengoku Japan to Rome to Han China to... You get the idea. I've also been delving into Japanese literature lately and finished a few books by Osamu Dazai and about to begin some Yukio Mishima with a friend! Oh yeah, I have a (kinda) book club with a good friend of mine!

Speaking of nerdy groups, I DM my own tabletop RPG weekly with a group of friends! Writing is a big passion of mine, and as such I've made plenty of fantasy and sci-fi settings that I sometimes DM! I also write poetry, horror, and just random tidbits. I've done commission writing before and made some money writing everything from erotica to fantasy. Take me as your sub and get free reading material before I blow up as an international bestseller! (Hopefully...) In addition to tabletop games I am also into video games! Mainly RPGs but I love a little bit of everything, it would take too long to list it all to be honest, but everything from Fatal Frame to Dragon Age to Dynasty Warriors to Mount & Blade. I mostly game on PC nowadays but I also have a Nintendo Switch, PS5, PS3, PS2, and N64!

Music is a large passion as well, I'm the type who has 200 custom made Spotify playlists with pretentious names and unique art for each with descriptions like, "and yet life goes on...". I'm into everything from alternative rock to hip-hop to noir jazz, I have yet to find a genre I'm not down for and steal songs from new acquaintances and friends constantly. I am also very into movies! This section on my nerdy interests is going on for a bit too long but I enjoy international films a lot, from Akira Kurosawa to Park Chan-wook to Wong Kar-wai.

I also enjoy camping, hiking, and the outdoors though have lacked friends to do outdoors stuff with lately. I am interested in philosophy and politics too, though I'm not gonna jump down your throat. I do welcome different beliefs to my own. I'm an agnostic-atheist and liberal, though I do have an interest in spirituality and have some hippie beliefs on that, heh. Philosophy in general is interesting to me and some friends I just rant about things with. I have friends in every circle from Aztec Pagans to Taoists to Libertarians to Communists, so whatever your beliefs, as long as you aren't extremely conservative (sorry but conservativism is where I draw the line of friend or not friend. I am socially liberal and have a shit-ton of queer and diverse friends) or as long as you are not outright evil, we should get along.

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Sexual Interests:

Oh fuck, this post is getting long, OK, I'm going to mostly put down my sexual interests in a big long list with a few tangents, OK, ready? Go!:

Oral in general (I fucking love giving oral to my partner, and again I'm pansexual, so that means blowjobs, eating out, rimming, whatever. I also honestly get off more on getting blowjobs than penetration). Cum (rather it be putting it on my partner, getting it on me, eating it, etc. I also love wetness in a partner, I wanna be fucking drenched). Body furniture (being used as a stool, seat, or some other type of furniture. I once sat under a partner's desk all day long while they worked serving as a foot-stool and eating them out when they beckoned me to). Edging, orgasm denial, masturbation control, anal (both ways, and I do own some anal toys), collars/leashes (I also own a collar), spanking, wax-play, service sub (I am all about getting my partner off so I am the definition of a service sub, I will do whatever you need me to do), degradation (within reason and debated beforehand), praise, mommy-dom (I really enjoy this and gentle domming in general though I also like tougher play), nipple-sucking, Goddess play (treating my partner as a deity or ruler and worshipping them their body), cuckolding (MUST be debated beforehand and agreed on, and for certain relationships I would not have it at all, it must be a very certain type of dynamic for me to be down for cuckolding, but if that dynamic is met I can be super fucking into it, I'm also into pansexual threesomes, so that means me also getting fucked or licking their cock your pussy, creampie eating, etc.) Consensual non-consent, rough play in general, I am also into hairy partners but almost as equally like fully shaved, so whatever you have is fine! I have a lot of other fetishes, and as a service-sub I kinda prefer adapting to my partner's interests.

Physical Description:

I'm 5'10", I have a medium slightly chubby build with a lot of body hair, generally masculine stocky body. Short kinda scruffy light brown hair, usually a light beard, greyish blue eyes, and glasses. I've been described by previous partners as the Golden Retriever Nerdy Boyfriend type and I think I more or less fulfill that! Style-wise I am also very close to that, usually just band t-shirts and a jacket or flannel with jeans and a beanie. Though for dates and random days I do wear dress shirts and nice button-ups. But I'm usually casually dressed. For the NSFW Details: I have a pretty big ass for a guy and big thighs (and yes, I am into anal :P). My cock is 6 inches, uncircumcised, and pretty thick/veiny. I have a nice voice I've been told, I had to go to speech therapy as a kid due to stuttering, (though that is more or less eliminated the stuttering, it only happening now and again), though as a result my southern Tennessean accent was completely wiped having to learn to annunciate everything properly, so I just have a standard non-descript American accent, sorry to all the Cowboy lovers out there but the Southern was trained out of me! I will say, I do have some chronic health issues, nothing that deeply affects my body or the aesthetics of it, but I figured it was fair to mention. I can walk, run, fuck, and do whatever needs to be done no problem, but I am a little bit more fragile than the average person.

You:

So, if you got this far, wow, I'm proud of you, that was a LOT to read for a random reddit post. This is the final section and closing summary, please keep reading before messaging me! I am looking (at least starting off) for a friends with dommy benefits, someone I can talk to casually as well as make cum. If you live nearby either in Tennessee or Alabama, awesome! Though I am also open to people farther away. I am into all types of people, women, men, non-binary, etc, but I have found I am more comfortable with feminine partners, so if you meet that criteria awesome! I'm also into more or less every body-type, I can find anyone from skinny and petite to on the plus side to somewhere in the middle attractive, all hair-colors, no hair, cock or vagina, everyone is beautiful in their own way! Meaning you automatically meet this criteria. Age-wise I am also pretty open, 18 is of course a requirement, and I do tend to prefer slightly older partners, but if you're younger than me or the same age don't be afraid to message me! In terms of older partners, I'd say mid 40s is where my comfort extends, anything above that feels a bit much since you would be older than my parents. A random thing but an issue I've run into before, I have a lot of friends who are women and/or queer, I have encountered doms who are not comfortable with that, (despite the fact that I'm pansexual so I could be attracted to male friends just as well, but whatever), so if you are comfortable and fine with me having a lot of women / queer friends, cool! Now for the final criteria: Be interested in me, want to actually talk, and have either a Discord or Snapchat! I do not feel comfortable sharing numbers immediately and I really don't have social media, so those two are my only messaging apps. I would prefer Discord, but I made a Snapchat recently and that is a possibility too! If you are interested, please tell me what you liked about my post, what interests we share, and a brief description of yourself! Thank you so much! Hope to hear from you!