I work in the inpatient pharmacy of a hospital, and everyone I directly work with is fantastic :)

However, the male housekeeping staff, and one of the male central supply staff not so much.

Apparently, according to my friends at least, I am an attractive woman. (I think I'm prettish, but I don't see what the fuss is all about.) And things have gotten a lot worse since I've been divorced.

The same man (and worst one of the bunch) routinely calls me his "secret girlfriend", "sexy", etc. He once asked if I found a new man yet and when I enthusiastically answered "hell no!" ( I was hoping it would illustrate my disinterest in such endeavors), he said if I "ever wanted to fool around" he'd be there.

Another man started asking me fifty questions one night and wouldn't let me walk around my pharmacy to do my job (he's housekeeping and was supposed to be cleaning it). He later friend requested me and a coworker on Facebook. We barely know him. He also keeps trying to get me to go to his stepson for my next tattoo. Which is more just annoying, but still.

Lastly, the CSR guy came up behind me and quickly asked if I wanted a back or shoulder rub (I can't remember the exact wording now). Before I could answer him he PUT HIS HANDS ON MY SHOULDERS AND RUBBED THEM.

I don't want to point blank get anyone in trouble, but I'd like to talk to my manager to approach the other managers about retraining.

There's two reasons for that. I'm super conflict avoidant, and I don't want to be directly known as the cause for someone getting disciplined.

But, also, because of that, I haven't firmly, and enthusiastically said "no." I think its obvious from body language, but still. I've also been sexually abused in the past, so specifically in the case where the guy touched me, I just froze like I did then. I at least felt my mouth and throat try to say no then, but I know it didn't come out.

All of that, and the fact that its multiple men multiple times, makes me feel less believable, or it could be seen as my fault.

I'm 99% my boss wouldn't, which is why I'd rather him be my mouthpiece, and he can go to the managers to just catch everyone up in some retraining or something.

I know I need to go to him. But I'm still so scared.

So mom, big sis, give me the kick I need to do it.