Hi All!

I am the spouse of a bisexual male. He disclosed his bisexuality when we were dating, and I fully support his orientation. Because of pregnancies which I am completely disabled by, we both drifted apart, and he sought out male encounters without my consent or knowledge on and off for 3 years. I discovered this on my own during the pandemic lockdown. I understand and accept what happened was an unhealthy expression of depression and unhappiness with our situation. He came completely clean and we have been working very hard on our transparency and honesty. The other day he finally let me give him oral anal sex *something he had done with the men and found he really liked.* Let's just say, it was amazing for both of us and a very vulnerable moment.

Here is my question:

Since this is new to me, what are some ways that I can continue to support him and push him to explore new activity or activity he did with the men with me? He admitted he was scared I wasn't 'going to enjoy it and so didn't press it for fear of rejection.

For those of you that have gone through the process, any pitfalls or questions we should be asking ourselves to help make sure we are looking at the whole picture? I want to make sure that we continue on the pathway of honesty.

Also, those of you that have navigated reconnecting/committing to each other after cheating, any advice on that avenue would be greatly appreciated.

TIA!