If you’re about to read, make sure you’re all caught up in all ten episodes of Love Is Blind: Sweden.

A lot of people seem to a) think that Lucas is a bad guy for not ending things sooner b) he is shallow and c) he was purposefully being evasive at the reunion and not fully expressing himself.

The thing is, how does one politely say (over and over again) that they are not physically or sexually attracted to someone else (literally sitting across from them in the reunion) without coming off as a complete jerk or bad guy? Lucas was put in a bad situation. Personally, I don’t think he is a bad person, a gaslighter, or shallow. I think he actually had great love towards Emilia but it was found to be platonic and not romantic.

I don’t think anyone would want to force physical or sexual attraction towards someone we are trying to date just to not hurt their feelings. It’s one thing to try and see if they’ll develop (which Lucas did because they dated for two weeks after the altar) but he realized his “No, not today” at the altar was actually a “No, never” in terms of marrying Emilia. It probably sucked because he did care about Emilia and has said positive things about what a great woman she is. He was just not attracted in a romantic way.

So how many times does he have to explain himself? Why is he painted as the bad guy here? Also, I have no idea how production and contracts factor in his decision by waiting to go to the altar.

Some people have also speculated there’s more to it as to why he didn’t see marriage with Emilia. I don’t understand why it can’t just be he was physically and sexually not attracted to her and that was the main issue for him and why it wasn’t possible for him to move forward.

Also, marriage is a huge life decision not to take lightly and frankly he made the right decision since he was very uncertain.