Without going into lengthy details, my bladder control has declined sharply over the past two years. The rate exponentially worsened within the last six months. I've been in therapy to deal with the fact that full time diapers are right around the corner, and they will be my best option until I'm eligible for surgery (no timeline). I'm struggling with the battle between the stigma of diapers and the stigma of being a 28 year old with little bladder control.

Eventually, I'd like to reach the point where many people here seem to be. I want to be HAPPY with my diapers, and no longer anxious. One thing that's helped tremendously is opening up here. Another thing that's helped me confront my anxiety has been opening up with the people in my life.

I've had issues talking about diapers and incontinence since the worsening of my symptoms. When I began this journey, I was happily in a relationship. That 3 year relationship ended because my ex-partner cheated, however she brought up the accidents and bladder issues on her way out the door. She said she "can't marry a grown man in diapers."

Since then, I've clammed up hard. My therapist and I have worked on it!

I told my best friend a few months ago. He handled the news shockingly casually. He basically said "that sucks man, but what can you do? Just wear the fuckin diapers.... Hey you wanna come with us to the zoo on the 8th?" His tone was more supportive than you might think, and his words are probably what I needed to hear. Our friendship won't change at all, and I see that clearly now.

I'm taking a road trip with two other friends a few weeks from now. We're going across the country. I told both of the friends I'll be stuck with in the car. The conversation was awkward, definitely. The outcome of the conversation was comforting, though. We ended on a "yeah man whatever you need, no judgement," note.

Both conversations were significantly less traumatic than I expected. Ive been worried that more people are going to react like my ex did. The reality is that there IS going to be negative reactions, and it's going to be a huge let down whenever they happen. However, the supportive people might just outshine the ignorant people!

Anyways, sharing here helps a lot. I'm thankful for this community and the opportunity I have to connect with others who live with incontinence.