As an ISTJ (F), I have been romantically involved with mostly XNFPs, some of which were partners and almost partners. This is with the exception of a potential partner who was an ENTP, which in the end turned really sad and sour.

Anyway, I was wondering if many female ISTJs have been mostly attached to XNFPs in the past (or present) in the romantic sense. Because as an ISTJ female, I find it hard to conform with societal norms and expectations to be 'female', as I am not that emotionally expressive, almost always in the logical area of things, and just have a certain detachment from the things I find unnecessary (i.e. fashion trends, gossip, drama).

It's really difficult to find friends who I can instantly click with, but then I find myself really at ease with XNFPs. They really have this soothing presence that make me express myself without much reservation. Maybe because they genuinely appreciate us, as we truly are.